Turning Interruptions into Opportunities: Radical Inclusivity and Compassion
Ever felt like someone was just getting in the way of your day? Maybe a coworker stopped by your desk when you were deep in thought, or a stranger asked for directions when you were in a rush. What if, instead of seeing these moments as interruptions, we saw them as opportunities? What if every unexpected encounter was a chance to connect and grow?
Father Gregory Boyle, the inspiring founder of Homeboy Industries, has a refreshing take on this. He believes in radical inclusivity and compassion, and his perspective can totally change how we view those “interruptions.”
Boyle says, “We’ve mistaken moral outrage for moral compass. Moral compass helps you see with clarity how complex and damaged people are. It is the whole language. Moral outrage just increases the volume and the distance that separates us.” In other words, instead of getting annoyed or judgmental, we should try to understand and connect with the people we meet, no matter how unexpected the encounter.
So, what is radical inclusivity? It’s about welcoming everyone, no matter who they are or where they come from. Boyle puts it simply: “There is no us and them, just us.” This means breaking down our biases and seeing the value in every person we meet.
And what about radical compassion? It’s more than just being nice. It’s about deeply empathizing with others and being willing to engage with them, especially those who are struggling. Boyle says, “You’re not going out to the margins to reach people; you’re going out to the margins to be reached.” This flips the script, turning interruptions into meaningful moments of connection.
At Homeboy Industries, Boyle’s philosophy comes to life. The organization offers a safe haven for former gang members, helping them find security and opportunities for growth. Boyle explains, “Here we say that they find this sanctuary here, then they become the sanctuary they sought in the first place, and then they go home and provide that sanctuary to their kids.” This cycle of compassion and inclusivity can break down barriers and create lasting change.
So, how can we bring this into our own lives? Here are a few ideas:
- Listen Up: When someone talks to you, really listen. Show genuine interest, especially if they’re different from you.
- Challenge Yourself: Question your own biases and try to see things from others’ perspectives.
- Seize the Moment: View unexpected encounters as opportunities, not interruptions.
- Practice Empathy: Try to understand what others are going through.
- Create Safe Spaces: Make your community a place where everyone feels welcome and accepted.
In the end, radical inclusivity and compassion can transform our daily interactions and help us build a more empathetic society. So next time someone “interrupts” you, take a moment to connect. You might just find that these unexpected encounters are the most rewarding parts of your day. After all, as Boyle says, we all “belong to each other.” Let’s make sure no one is left out.
Ron Huxley LMFT 