Confronting Our Mortality


Reflecting on our own mortality is a profound and deeply personal experience that often prompts us to confront our fears and anxieties about death. This introspective journey can be triggered by significant life events or milestone ages, leading us to contemplate the transient nature of life and the inevitability of our own mortality. In this article, we will delve into the complexities of reflecting on mortality and navigating the fear of death, offering insights and strategies for managing these existential concerns.

The Weight of Mortality:

Reflecting on our mortality can be a confronting experience, causing us to reevaluate our priorities and the way we live our lives. It can serve as a poignant reminder of the fleeting nature of time and the importance of cherishing each moment. However, this contemplation can also stir up existential anxiety and evoke a deep sense of unease about the unknown.

Confronting the Fear of Death:

The fear of death is a universal human experience, rooted in our instinct for self-preservation and the unknown that lies beyond life. This fear can manifest in various ways, from subtle unease to overwhelming existential dread. It may be triggered by personal experiences, cultural influences, or simply the contemplation of life’s impermanence.

Coping Strategies:

Seeking Support: Encourage individuals to reach out to mental health professionals, counselors, or trusted individuals to discuss their fears and anxieties surrounding death. Seeking support can provide a safe space for expression and offer valuable tools for managing overwhelming emotions.

Mindfulness and Meditation: Engaging in mindfulness practices and meditation can help individuals cultivate a sense of peace and acceptance, allowing them to confront their fears with a clearer mindset.

Exploring Existentialism: Encouraging individuals to explore philosophical and existential concepts can provide valuable insights into the nature of life, death, and the human experience. Engaging with existential literature and thought may help individuals find meaning and purpose amid their reflections on mortality.

Embracing Life Amidst Mortality:

While reflecting on mortality and confronting the fear of death can be a daunting journey, it also presents an opportunity for profound introspection and personal growth. By acknowledging our mortality, we can cultivate a deeper appreciation for life, cherish our relationships, and seek fulfillment in meaningful experiences.

Reflecting on our mortality and grappling with the fear of death are deeply human experiences that warrant compassion and understanding. By engaging in open conversations, seeking support, and exploring coping strategies, individuals can navigate these existential concerns with resilience and introspection. Embracing life’s transient nature while acknowledging our fears can lead to a profound sense of acceptance and a renewed appreciation for the beauty of existence.

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Trauma + Faith = Resilience

According to the National Opinion Research Center’s General, Social Survey over 90% of Americans believes in God or a higher power. Sixty percent belong to a local religious group. Another 60% think that religious matter is important or very important in how they conduct their lives, and 80% are interested in “growing spiritually”.

Even when people do not belong to a specific religious group or identity with a particular spiritual orientation, 30% of adults state they pray daily and 80% pray when faced with a serious problem or crisis.

Trauma is defined as any event, small or large, that overwhelms the mind and bodies ability to cope. Some people appear more resilient or able to “bounce back” in the face of trauma. Studies proof that faith is one-way children and adults can cope with traumatic events and suffering.

The question remains “how does faith make us more resilient?” It may be that faith reduces the negative, victimized thinking that results from trauma. For example, victimized people understandable “feel” as if they are damaged, dirty, worthless, stupid, vulnerable, ashamed, or unlovable. The type of trauma might be small or large but this is a common emotional reaction to the hurt someone suffers.

This reaction results in a lower ability to mentally plan and adaptively cope with situations create more possibility that fear, hurt, and worthlessness will result. You can see the vicious cycle that trauma can create…

Our minds are meaning-seeking devices. We like to find things to validate our thoughts and experiences so we can better navigate future circumstances. The upside of this is that we can be more efficient problem-solvers and survive. The downside is we can unrealistic or simply untrue beliefs.

Faith counters this downward cycle of believing, acting, and reacting by shifting the story from the negative plot lines to the bigger themes that “I am loved, valued, and cared for…even when things are bad!” Faith can override negative views of oneself with the belief that you are loved just as you are, normalize the internal spiritual struggles, encourage opening up and being vulnerable again, renewing a sense of control or mastery in life, and fostering social connections.

Being part of a larger group of people contributes to our collective connectedness that detours isolation and loneliness and encourages greater personal healing. Research demonstrates that socially connected people are more likely to meet the demands of everyday loss and stress.

Spirituality and religious affiliation can also benefit traumatized people from the toxic memories of the trauma event. This occurs with the individual feels they can share their grief with a greater community. Traumatic memories cannot be forgotten but they can be contained and/or unburdened when shared with fellow sufferers and with God or your higher power. This is a move toward memory instead of moving beyond memory. As one author described it: “One must have the courage of memory, because through it, one can seek God.”

Finally, religious groups have the best inspirational self-help scripts available in the form of the Bible, Torah, Koran, other holy scriptures, liturgy, and worship. They offers a framework for dealing with trauma and copes with stress.

Rabbi Harold Kushner, in his popular book on “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” writes:

“In the final analysis, the question of why bad things happen to good people translates itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, what we intend to do now that it has happened.” (p. 147) .

Faith provides us with the HOW of living resiliently!

REFERENCES:

Meichenbaum, D. (2016) TRAUMA, SPIRITUALITY AND RECOVERY: TOWARD A SPIRITUALLY-INTEGRATED PSYCHOTHERAPY :

Click to access SPIRITUALITY_PSYCHOTHERAPY.pdf

SAMHA Website on Faith-based Communities : http://www.samhsa.gov/fbci/fbci_pubs.aspx

Pargament, K. I., Kennell, J. et al. (1988). Religion and the problem-solving process: Three styles of coping. Journal of the Scientific Study of Religion, 29, 90-104.

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Jay, J. (1994). Walls of wailing. Common Boundary, May/June, 30-35.

Harold S. Kushner’s “When Bad Things Happen To Good People” New York: Schocken Books, 1981.